becoming an adult

- stability
- function in society
- play well with others (team work)

* to felippe

these were some of the things i really wanted when i was younger, i was desperate to know how to be an adult. the thought plagued my every minute, every time i went into an interview, every time i got a new job... every time i tried to be an "adult" by society's standards i got chucked away.

it took me a long time to figure out that none of that exists... none of it... everyone is fucked up in one way or another... there is no right way of being an adult... its not what u see on tv sitcoms, or how u see other people behaving... it just is.

we grow up with all sort of rules and regulations on what being an adult is, and that can really weigh in on u at times. being an adult does not mean holding a secure job, does not mean paying ur bills, does not mean going out for happy hour and does not mean getting married and having kids. being an adult JUST IS!

i was having a conversation with a friend who is a few years younger than i, who has jst gotten a "secure" job, and he was telling me how he "needed" stability, and how he wants to be an adult... at 20 something this is a really big deal... i know ive been there. bt as time goes on u end up realizing that the "adult" fairy- tale, is jst that. a fairy tale. although people may judge u because society has implied that an adult should be certain things... i am starting to think that being an adult has absolutely nothing to do with what we think it has.

i think being an adult mean owning up to who u r, accepting and acting the way u r, without being worried about what "they" will think, what "they" would do, how "they" would act. this simple thing its actually a lot harder to DO than it seems. we have family standards that we should comply to. we have society standards that we must abide by. however the ONLY important standards we SHOULD be worried about is OUR standard. we should only be who we are and nothing else. because people come and go, family will stick around a little longer, bt wanting it or not they will go away too- be it death or jst a matter of differences. friends, if u r lucky u will find some that will stick for a long time, bt nothing is a guarantee that they will be with u till u die... the only thing we have is US. unfortunately we will have to put up with ourselves for the rest of our days... so dont kid urself, u should be who u r, and u should want to be better for urself, because trust me... at the end of the line and u r old and gray, the only thing that will make u happy is if u had a good life...

living up to ur own standards can be much more demanding than having to follow some
made up rule society has implied!